Attending My Needs First

We are in India, in an Ayurvedic Healt Care Center for rest and rejuvenation and blessed with an amazing doctor. Encouraged by our doctor to ask for what we need. In practice it plays out this way that I have to ask for many many times, in order to for example adjust the heat of the oil in a treatment, or the amount of the food duirng mealtimes to my needs.

I realised that if and when I am alert and aware enough to notice my needs are not met, and then immediately make a request it comes from the place of loving care. Then I still have spaciousness in me to care for myself and hold other person also with care and respect. I noticed with amazement, that in such a case, I have capacity to persist with my requests without becoming agitated or impatient but can continue asking for what I need with loving kindness.

If I don´t realize my unmet needs early enough, or do not dare to ask for what I need, my inner space shrinks and becomes toxic. Then it is much harder to come with true request from loving caring energy for each person involved.